If you grew up with a mother (or father) who suffered with her own trauma and narcissistic wound, you may still be living with the early childhood trauma and emotional neglect that you experienced within your family of history.
Here are 10 of the most recommended self-help books, by therapists and sufferers, to help you heal from a ‘narcissistic mother‘.
The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self Healing and Getting the Love You Missed by Jasmin Lee Cori
Was your mother too busy, too tired, or too checked-out to provide you with the nurturing you needed as a child? People who were under-mothered as children often struggle with intimate relationships, in part because of their unmet need for maternal care. “The Emotionally Absent Mother” will help you understand what was missing from your childhood, how this relates to your mother’s own trauma history, and how you can fill the mother gap.
Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection and Guidance by Kelly McDaniel
The constant search for mother love is heart breaking and shame-producing, but it can be healed by understanding what we are missing. Mother Hunger demystifies the search for love and provides the compass that each woman needs to end the struggle.
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay Gibson
If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life.
Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration by Karen C. L. Anderson
Your bond with your mother is one of the most important factors influencing your life. But what if your mother is emotionally withholding or hard to even have a relationship with? Karen C. L. Anderson has good news for you: a fraught connection with your mother doesn’t need to stand in the way of your own health and happiness.
Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy & Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward
Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents – and discover a new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.
Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Dr. Karyl McBride
The first book for daughters who have suffered the abuse of narcissistic, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating trauma history and reclaim your life. Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this emotional abuse and create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and recovery.
Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Dr Jonice Webb
Running on Empty is the first self-help book about Emotional Neglect: an invisible force from your childhood which you can’t see, but may be affecting you profoundly to this day. It is about what didn’t happen in your childhood, what wasn’t said, and what cannot be remembered.
You’re Not Crazy – It’s Your Mother: Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Danu Morrigan
If you have a difficult relationship with your mother, this book might well hold the key as to why. If you feel torn, upset, or confused after contact with your mother, then you deserve to have the answers. And maybe that answer is that your mother has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This book will help you find freedom from your narcissistic mother.
Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self by Dr. Golomb
The difficulties experienced by adult children of narcissists can manifest themselves in many ways: for examples, physical self-loathing that takes form of overeating, anorexia, or bulimia; a self-destructive streak that causes poor job performance and rocky personal relationships; or a struggle with the self that is perpetuated in the adult’s interaction with his or her own children. These dilemmas are both common and correctable, Dr. Golomb tells us.
The Drama Of Being A Child: The Search for the True Self by Alice Miller
Alice Miller’s book hold’s the premise the child who is more intelligent, more sensitive, and more emotionally aware than other children, can be so attuned to her parents’ expectations that she does whatever it takes to fulfill these expectations while ignoring her own feelings and needs. Miller’s book about childhood trauma has provided thousands of readers with guidance and hope.
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